About Me

Hi I'm Tanya!

I know how it feels when there is too much on your plate. You may feel depressed, stressed out, over-stretched, confused, anxious, shamed, and upset with yourself for tolerating abuse. I used to put the needs of others above my own and  I am a recovering co-dependent.

I know how it feels having to make really hard decisions that impact your life, your friend circles, and your job and I know the pain of having to uproot your kids.

I have spent many years mediating, coaching, training and managing people in my career. I know how it feels to be highly successful in your job but dread going there everyday!

Over the past twenty five years, I've hit various roadblocks in my own life and  struggled to make even the smallest decisions. How I struggled with brain fog and craved clarity!

It took me four attempts to finally get out of an emotionally and verbally abusive marriage with an alcoholic man who's narcissistic abuse I endured for over two decades; followed by two painful years navigating a very ugly and vicious divorce. I continue to deal with the affects that abuse has had on my two adult children, as I strive to help them heal, and support them as they navigate their own difficult relationships with their father.

I certainly lost my joy along the way amidst the abuse and I knew I needed to heal and find my purpose, happiness and strength again, so I searched for a way to clear my brain-fog, overcome my self-doubt, and fully heal from the trauma.

Talk therapy can only help so much, and I craved practical steps that I could take to truly heal, recover, and thrive. Educating myself about narcissistic personality disorder, and undergoing brainspotting therapy and RTT helped me tremendously.

In the spring of 2019 I embarked on a year-long journey called "Perfect Health Mastery", and I worked with a Life Coach in San Diego. The positive psychology techniques I learned were so impactful friends and family who saw such immense changes in me began asking me for help with their own challenges. Of course I shared what I had learned, and that took me on a path of curiosity and learning.

After sharing with a close friend my desire to help other women heal from narcissistic abuse, she introduced me to Caroline Strawson, a Certified High Performance Coach based in England, who specializes in PTSD, CPTSD, and narcissistic abuse recovery, and I am training to become a Narcissism Informed Certified Coach. 

No-one tends to understand or believe our story when we are on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse, but I want you to know that I believe you! I promise to walk alongside you and work with you to help you gain clarity, heal your trauma, and design a practical strategy to get you from where you are now, to where you want to be. Whether it's professionally or personally, the way-maker in me promises to help you find your way and your clarity.

Feel free to reach out, I'd love to hear about you, and where you would like to start imparting some clarity in your life. Let's work together to move YOU from confusion to clarity!

Much love, Tanya