My journey from confusion to clarity...
Hi I'm Tanya!
I'd like to tell you a little bit about me, who I am, and why I do what I do.
I'm originally from England, I was born in Hereford, and I've made Pittsburgh, PA, my home for the past thirty years.
I've spent the majority of my career in the financial services industry, and the past several years in workforce development. I have a lot of experience mediating, coaching, training, developing, and managing people which has enabled me to be able to easily relate to all types of people from every background.
I know how it feels to be degraded, feel depressed, live life stressed out, over-stretched, confused, anxious, ashamed, and upset with yourself for tolerating abuse. I hear you, I feel your pain, I have been there.
I also know how it feels having to make really hard decisions impacting your life, career and your friend circles. I know all too well the pain, guilt, and shame of uprooting my kids and turning their whole world upside down.
Leaving an abusive relationship can be so difficult! It took me four attempts to finally get out of an emotionally, financially, and verbally abusive marriage with an alcoholic man, who's narcissistic abuse I endured for over two decades. (I didn't know about trauma bonding at that time!) Even after leaving it was followed by two painful years navigating a very ugly, vicious and costly divorce. It was impossible to co-parent and I still continue to deal with the affects the narcissistic trauma has had on my two adult children. I strive to help them heal, and support them as they navigate their own difficult relationships with their father.
I certainly lost myself along the way amidst the abuse, and I knew I needed to heal and find my purpose, happiness and joy again. I searched for ways to overcome my self-doubt, and fully heal (completely unaware that I was most likely suffering from being codependent, having complex PTSD and unresolved trauma.)
Talk therapy helped a little bit, but I felt like I was just rehashing the same stuff over and over without moving forward. I craved practical steps I could take to truly heal, recover, and thrive again. I educated myself about narcissistic personality disorder, and underwent EMDR, and RTT and that helped me tremendously!
I have always been intrigued by personal development work and in the spring of 2019 my daughter and I embarked on a year-long "Perfect Health Mastery" journey, working with a Life Coach in San Diego. The positive psychology techniques we learned were so impactful that friends and family who saw such immense changes in us began asking for help with their own challenges. Of course we shared what we had learned, and that subsequently took me on a path of curiosity and learning.
I signed up for High Performance Coaching with Leah Eggers, a Certified High Performance Coach™, and shared my desire to use my life experiences to help other women heal from narcissistic abuse. Leah introduced me to Caroline Strawson, another CHPC™, who specializes in PTSD, CPTSD, and narcissistic abuse trauma recovery. I quickly realized that Caroline's training was exactly what I had been searching for, I simultaneously healed my past traumas while training with the Post Traumatic Growth Academy® to become a Certified Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coach.™
No-one tends to understand or even believe our story when we are on the receiving end of narcissistic abuse, but I want you to know that I do understand and I believe you! I promise to walk alongside you and work with you to help you gain clarity, heal your trauma, and design a practical strategy to get you from where you are now, to where you want to be.
Feel free to reach out, I'd love to hear all about you, and where you would like to start imparting some clarity in your own life.
I use many of the concepts I learned for myself in my coaching practice today including positive psychology, hypnotherapy, and the Narcissistic Trauma Unlocking® Coaching method.
Let's work together to move YOU from confusion to clarity, heal your trauma and get you on a path of rediscovering the joy in your life!