My journey from confusion to clarity...

Hello, I'm Tanya!

I'd like to share a bit about myself, who I am, and why I'm passionate about what I do.

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Originally from England, I was born in Hereford, and for the past three decades, I've called Pittsburgh, PA, my home.

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I want you to know that I understand the challenges life can throw at you. I've experienced the feelings of degradation, depression, stress, overwhelm, confusion, anxiety, shame, and self-blame that can come with enduring abusive situations. I've been in your shoes, and I empathize with your pain.

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I'm also intimately familiar with making tough life decisions that affect your career, friendships, and family. I've faced the pain, guilt, and shame of uprooting my children and completely reshaping their world.

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Leaving an abusive relationship can be incredibly challenging. In my case, it took four attempts to finally break free from an emotionally, financially, and verbally abusive marriage with an alcoholic partner. I endured narcissistic abuse for over two decades, even though I didn't fully understand the concept of trauma bonding back then. Even after leaving, I faced two grueling years navigating a difficult, costly divorce filled with ugliness. Co-parenting was nearly impossible, and I continue to witness the effects of narcissistic trauma on my adult children. My mission is to support them in their healing journeys as they navigate their own challenging relationships with their father.

 

I certainly lost my sense of self along the way amidst the abuse, and I recognized the urgent need to heal and rediscover my purpose, happiness, and joy. I embarked on a quest to overcome my self-doubt, though I wasn't fully aware that I was likely grappling with codependency, complex PTSD, and unresolved trauma.

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I gave talk therapy a try, but it felt like I was repeatedly going over the same issues without making much progress. I yearned for practical steps to genuinely heal, recover, and thrive once more. My journey led me to educate myself about narcissistic personality disorder, and I underwent therapies like EMDR and RTT.

 

My goal was to heal fully and cultivate a healthy relationship with myself, which I believed would eventually extend to a meaningful connection with someone special.

 

My fascination with personal development work had always been a part of me. In the spring of 2019, my daughter and I embarked on a year-long "Perfect Health Mastery" journey, working with a Life Coach in San Diego. The positive psychology techniques we learned had a profound impact, leading friends and family who witnessed our transformation to seek our advice for their own challenges. We gladly shared what we had learned, setting me on a path of curiosity and self-discovery.

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I took a significant step forward by enrolling in High Performance Coaching with Leah Eggers, a Certified High Performance Coach™. I expressed my desire to use my life experiences to help other women heal from narcissistic abuse. Leah introduced me to Caroline Strawson, another CHPC™, who specializes in PTSD, CPTSD, and narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery. It became evident that Caroline's coaching training was precisely what I had been searching for. Concurrently, I worked on addressing my past traumas while training with the Post Traumatic Growth Academy® as a Hypnotherapist and became a Certified Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coach™. Later on, I furthered my training in levels 1 and 2 of Brainspotting, which I now integrate into my one-on-one coaching sessions.

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I've dedicated a significant portion of my career to the financial services industry, and in recent years, I've been deeply involved in workforce development. Through these experiences, I've honed skills in mediation, coaching, training, people development, and management. This diverse background allows me to connect with individuals from various backgrounds and walks of life.

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All these skills and experiences have come together to make me a well-rounded life coach!

I particularly enjoy working with compassionate and caring women who have had their empathic qualities used against them. I know that when you've experienced narcissistic abuse, it can be challenging to find someone who truly understands and believes your story. I want you to know that I do understand, and I believe you completely. My commitment is to walk beside you, working together to bring clarity, heal your trauma, and create a practical strategy to bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be.

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If you're a successful woman who struggles with imposter syndrome, challenging family relationships, or tendencies toward self-sabotage in your personal or professional life, it may be rooted in unresolved trauma. I've been there too. Only after addressing my own inner child and healing from narcissistic trauma was I able to break free from self-imposed limitations and thrive in my life and my business. I'm here to help you achieve the same.

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My goal is to help you recognize your true worth, reconnect with who you know you can be, establish healthy boundaries, and ensure you don't find yourself in another toxic relationship.

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I want to clarify that I'm not a therapist, and coaching is different from therapy. If you're dealing with severe PTSD or CPTSD, I strongly recommend seeking a therapist who specializes in abuse and trauma. However, I can assist in recognizing and managing symptoms and triggers related to PTSD and CPTSD. I can also provide you with valuable tools to help in your healing journey after experiencing abuse and to regain your strength to move forward.

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In my coaching practice, I draw upon the lessons I've learned on my personal journey, utilizing approaches such as positive psychology, hypnotherapy, brainspotting, and the Narcissistic Trauma Unlocking® Coaching method.

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Please don't hesitate to reach out. I'd love to hear about your unique experiences, your business, your challenges, and where you'd like to begin finding clarity in your life.

Together, we can work towards moving you from a place of confusion to clarity, transitioning from toxic relationships to healthy ones, reconnecting with your authentic self, and setting you on a path to love yourself and others in a healthy and fulfilling way.

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Whenever you're ready, I'm here to support you.

 

 

Tanya